How have you been? I came across this interesting article explaining the differences between dating a man in comparison to dating a boy. The ideology goes well with my current revelation towards life and finding the destined one. The link to the page is provided at the end of this entry but let me cut and paste the list:
- A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
- A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life). A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
- A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
- A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
- A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
- A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
- A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
- A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
- A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
- A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.
11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.
As I previously mentioned, I have been going through a serious revelation, call it mid life crisis if you will, I can't be sure. What I do know for a fact is, I am unhappy with my current life and I owe it to myself and you to make the change.
Sadly after giving the list a thorough read, I am ashamed to say I have been a boy for far too long. However, I have taken concrete actions to man up and the good news is I have already started on the path of becoming a man way before I came across this article, I just never knew someone made a numbered list; with that I am proud to say I am almost complete with the list apart for number 4 and 6. I really got to work on those two. You see, my last relationship crippled me and it wasn't easy picking up the pieces; but rest assured I will be the man worthy for you when we meet. I shall leave it at that for now.
Good night, good morning, good day wherever you may be my destined one. See you soon.
Differences between a man and a boy
