My gift to you.

Dear Destined One,

Another week has past, how have you been?

I want to be the best version of myself for you. I have set in motion a couple of things.

1. Take part in a running event and complete 5km. Time frame: 2months. November 2013
2. Take part in a running event and complete 10km. Time frame: 6months. March 2014
3. Put on 5kg in 12 months via weight training by 9 September 2014
4. Get my business website up and running by January 2014.
5. Take up cooking classes. I have enrolled for a 5 week full time course in November.

I have not been watching my health. Here's a little about me, I'm not a big fan of sports, I hate to perspire, well actually I don't mind an all out session where I get to sweat it all out, but I hate those intermittent activities where it gets you a little sweaty and sticky and then u dry up just to sweat again. I prefer an "all or nothing" session, but unfortunately it has mostly been "nothing" for me.

Also, from where I come from, we have conscription service, and my status is active reserve, which means I am required to be combat fit. I am required to pass a fitness test which I have been failing repeatedly and then get sent for 20 sessions of fitness training. I don't skive when I do those sessions, but the problem is once I am done with those session, I am back to slacking off in the real world again. So come next year, wash, rinse and repeat.

I have started training for the running events. The awesome thing is I found a beautiful jogging route near my house.The wonderful things that are so close to me and I failed to notice. The jogging track runs for 2km out and it leads to the beach, and I push for 3km on the beach. The view is breath taking. I'll take a pic and show you soon.

I am going to change, I want to be good enough for you. I want to be the best version of myself for you. So I figured, what better way to change by changing from within. Good health, good physique would do me good in life. If I ever meet you my destined one, having good health would prolong my life, which in turn means I get to spend more time with you. I cannot believe I did not think of this sooner!

I have shared with you my short term goals. In time I will share with you the rest of my plans. Ultimately I am doing all these for you.

I can't wait to meet you, do take care of yourself for me alright?

Gotta man up.

 Dear Destined One,

How have you been? I came across this interesting article explaining the differences between dating a man in comparison to dating a boy. The ideology goes well with my current revelation towards life and finding the destined one. The link to the page is provided at the end of this entry but let me cut and paste the list:

1. A man knows what he wants, and goes for it. A boy may have somewhat of an idea, but not really. He doesn’t think too much about it, and even if he does, doesn’t exert much effort to get it. A boy is passive, a man is assertive.
2. A man plans for his future and is working towards building a foundation and infrastructure in order to have a family (at some point in his life).  A boy lives only in the moment and his plans are mostly around which bar he’s going to hit up on the weekend.
3. A man looks for a woman with intelligence, who is supportive, grounded and encompasses a shared set of values when choosing a partner. A boy cares mostly only for girls who are hot, wild and exciting.
4. A man knows a good woman when he meets one and will take initiative to get to know her. A boy may make an attempt if you’re lucky, but gives up before ever really trying.
5. A man has the courage to have uncomfortable conversations. He is honest with his intentions and lets people know where they stand. A boy avoids. He ignores confrontation or any serious talks about feelings. Instead of dealing with a situation, he runs away from it or creates drama or excuses to mask the fact he’s not that into you or a relationship.
6. A man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet. A boy is always “testing” – he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in.
7. A man knows how to have a good time and be social, but is often busy making strides in his career and building his life. A boy is getting crunk with his buddies at the bar every weekend.
8. A man takes the time to reflect on the type of man he wants to be, the example he wants to leave and the vision for his life. He has put thought into his values. A boy has not established his moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent.
9. A man has integrity. He means what he says, and says what he means. He has follow through and actions his promises. And if he can’t he has the guts to tell you why. A boy makes promises but doesn’t follow through.
10. A man is afraid of rejection but will put himself out there anyway. A boy is afraid of rejection and acts passive so that his pride and ego won’t ever get too banged up.

Now, a lot of these differences require taking the time to know someone to figure out if the apple of your eye is indeed a man, or a mere boy. However, one of the quickest filters that you can notice from the beginning is this:
11. A boy plays games. A man doesn’t.
 
As  I previously mentioned, I have been going through a serious revelation, call it mid life crisis if you will, I can't be sure. What I do know for a fact is, I am unhappy with my current life and I owe it to myself and you to make the change.

Sadly after giving the list a thorough read, I am ashamed to say I have been a boy for far too long. However, I have taken concrete actions to man up and the good news is I have already started on the path of becoming a man way before I came across this article, I just never knew someone made a numbered list; with that I am proud to say I am almost complete with the list apart for number 4 and 6. I really got to work on those two. You see, my last relationship crippled me and it wasn't easy picking up the pieces; but rest assured I will be the man worthy for you when we meet. I shall leave it at that for now.

Good night, good morning, good day wherever you may be my destined one. See you soon.

Differences between a man and a boy

Another entry

Dear Destined One,

How have you been? How is the weather at wherever you are? Do you have the habit of skipping your meals? I hope you don't, its not good for your health.

Today I came across an inspirational picture on the internet, it really got to me and I would like to share that with you.

While it has not made me stop looking for you. I believe that one still have to be proactive to search for his or her destined one. You could be just right outside my doorstep my destined one, but if I do not take the effort to step out of the house, I would never meet you.

What I found profoundly meaningful is the idea to focus on my goals and rebuilding my life. I want to be the best that I can be when I eventually meet you and spend the rest of our lives together.

There is still so much on my mind that I want to share with you. My thoughts, my dreams and goals in life.

I miss you so much my Destined One. I hope with every essence of my being to meet you soon.

Love you,
Your Destined One

A beginning.

To My Destined One,

This is crazy, we've not met but I am already in love with you, so call me maybe? Today I begin this blog to detail my journey in search of you. You see, my destined one, while my life has been rough, I still hold the notion that there is a special someone out there for everyone; and you are meant for me. I hope to find you soon and get to know you.

This kinda feels like a message in a bottle out in the sea. If this every gets to you, I just want you to know I have already fallen in love with you my destined one.

I will continue to fill up this blog with content, and maybe after we finally met I can show this to you.

So until then, my destined one, take care.

Sincerely,
Your Destined One